Monday, November 10, 2014

To Venture On Wider Seas

A few months ago, while co-leading a worship event, the Pastor of the church stopped the band to read a prayer...and then invited the room to join him in reading the prayer a second time through.

This prayer stopped me in my tracks.

I came home, googled it immediately, and have had that tab open ever since. (classic Allison.)

At this point in my life (having been following Jesus for more than 20 years) I shouldn't be surprised that God hears and answers prayers. And yet, somehow, it took nearly a month for me to realize that, as things went a little haywire in my life and I began to spin out a bit in the shock of it all, it took nearly a month for me to realize that had actually asked for this to happen.

I prayed that my life would be disturbed. Silly me.

With tears in my eyes, I read these lines. I prayed them deeply. I longed for a life full of dreams too big to be fulfilled by my tiny (read: human) skill-set.

Disturb us, Lord, when We are too well pleased with ourselves,
When our dreams have come true
Because we have dreamed too little,
When we arrived safely
Because we sailed too close to the shore.


Disturb us, Lord, to dare more boldly,
To venture on wider seas
Where storms will show your mastery;
Where losing sight of land,
We shall find the stars.
We ask You to push back
The horizons of our hopes;
And to push into the future
In strength, courage, hope, and love.
My life has been adequately disturbed in the last few months. And the only reason I'm making it is because I believe, through it all, I will see His mastery.

So, here's to venturing on wider seas.
And all of the fears, tears, and re-readings of Jesus calming the storm and walking on water that come with it.

Monday, November 03, 2014

More More More Monday

Five things I can't get enough of right now...

The Serial Podcast by This American Life. (one nonfiction story unfolded week-by-week. currently revolving around the 1999 murder of a high school girl.)

Revlon Colorburst Lipsticks (the color will last all day. no joke. it's the best.)

Chandelier by Sia (have you heard the piano version. her voice is incredible. the chorus gives me goosebumps every time.)

Stories of a life of travel (anyone know how I could just travel the world as a career?)

Gilmore Girls on Netflix (basic. because, really, who isn't watching that these days...)


Friday, October 31, 2014

Recording the Life Stories of My Grandparents

I have a big family: my mom is the oldest of five and my dad is the oldest of seven. Nearly everyone is married and has at least two children. We all love to give gifts, so Christmas is quite the extravaganza. A very long, very expensive extravaganza.

A few years ago, we decided to take a more creative approach to Christmas gifts, switching from purchasing gifts to what we have affectionately come to describe as "make, bake, or take Christmas." Make a gift (spending no more than $5), bake something (or, if you prefer, make flavored alcohol, which we've received on more than one occasion) or take something you already own and re-gift it (there is no price limit to re-gifting: my cousin received a set of golf clubs two years ago.)

For Christmas 2012, I gave my mom's parents a book labeled About Me. The first page was a note from me, asking them to, over the course of the next year, answer the questions at the top of each page and give this book to me as my gift on Christmas 2013.

On Christmas morning 2013, I opened both books from my grandparents, each full of memories (mostly handwritten, a few typed for lack of space (!!)) with the request that the book be kept private: what was written in there was written for me, and no one else--much to the jealousy of my aunts and cousins. A few days later, my Grandpa and Grandma each asked to have the book back for a little while to add stories and details that they had recently remembered and wanted to include. I happily returned the book, knowing I'd want as many memories as they would want to share.

A few months ago, my Grandma passed away. On her bedside table, the morning she died, was this book and a pen. I scooped it up, quickly, and put it in my purse. As I read through it over the following week--and wept, of course--I was even more thankful for the time she had put in to writing down her life stories for me...appreciating this heirloom all the more in her passing.

In the last year or so, I've had a few people ask about the questions that are in the book: How specific are they? Where did I find them? Etc. So I thought I would post them here, as a way to have a place to point people for this information, but also as an encouragement to you to make a similar book for the people in your family. Someday, I hope to have a little library of Family Life Stories...what a great way to fill a bookshelf.

:: ABOUT ME :: 
I bought 1/2 sheet spiral-bound blank sheet books from Michael's and covered the front in construction paper. (You know, high quality craftsmanship.) And then I hand-wrote questions at the top of each page. The majority of the questions are written on the front of the page, leaving the back open for extra space to answer. Also, customize the questions (and the order of questions) to each recipient: each of my grandparents has lost a sibling, but at different stages in their lives. I used the same question "what was it like to lose your brother/sister?" but placed them in the book around the appropriate stage of life (teenage years, after marriage, late in life, etc)

  • My note to you (I filled this in) || Your note to me (dated the following Christmas)
  • What is your earliest childhood memory? 
  • Describe your childhood in two sentences 
  • List your parents & grandparents full names, places & dates of birth 
  • What one or two stories do you remember most from your childhood? 
  • What was your neighborhood like growing up?
  • What did you parents do for work? (1/2 page)
  • Describe each of your parents in one word. (1/2 page)
  • What song(s) will always remind you of your parents/childhood? (1/2 page)
  • What was your favorite thing to do with your parent(s)? (1/2 page)
  • Describe a typical family dinner...what did you eat? What did you talk about around the table?
  • What were your favorite foods growing up? Did your mom/dad typically cook or did you go out to eat often?
  • List each school you attended, years you attended and your best friend(s) at each level.
  • What was your favorite subject? (1/2 page)
  • What were your favorite book(s)? (1/2 page)
  • What was your favorite after school activity? (1/2 page)
  • What did you want to be when you "grew up"? (1/2 page)
  • Do you remember the first family vacation you took? How old were you? Where did you go
  • What was your first job? How did you get it? When and why did you leave it?
  • When was your first date? Where did you take him/her?
  • When do you remember laughing the hardest with your family?
  • When/how did you feel most loved by your family?
  • How did your childhood shape you as a parent?
  • What is the best thing your parents taught you?
  • What was it like to lose your brother? How did you handle your grief?
  • Describe the first time you met Grandma/Grandpa.
  • When did you know you were in love?
  • How did you propose? Who was the first person you told?
  • When and where were you married? How big was the wedding?
  • What advice would you give a newlywed?
  • Where did you go on your honeymoon?
  • How long after your wedding did you become a parent?
  • What were your thoughts about becoming a mother/father? Fears? Excitement? Nerves?
  • What was the best parenting advice you received?
  • Did you plan to have __ (number of) children? How many kids did you want to have? How did you choose their names?
  • What advice would you give a new parent?
  • Tell me about the births of your children.
  • How did having children change your marriage?
  • What has been the happiest time/part/stage of being a parent?
  • What has been the most difficult time/part/stage of being a parent?
  • Would you have done anything differently as a husband/wife and/or father/mother?
  • How did you come to be a (profession)
  • What was/is your favorite family tradition?
  • What are the most memorable family vacation stories?
  • Describe the day you found out you were going to be a grandparent.
  • Where were you on the day I was born? (1/2 page)
  • Tell me something funny my parents did that day. (1/2 page)
  • What has been the best part of being a grandparent? (1/2 page)
  • What has been the most difficult part? (1/2 page)
  • Who are your "oldest" friends? How have you remained friends for so long?
  • Describe what it was like to lose your parents. How did you handle your grief?
  • Did it feel different to lose your mother or father? Was it difficult to help your children grieve a grandparents while grieving yourself?
  • What would you consider to be your greatest accomplishments?
  • List your top ten favorite books.
  • List your ten favorite songs (or albums or artists) at all time.
  • List five people you would consider (or have considered) to be your heroes and why.
  • What three world events have had the most impact on your life and why?
  • Do you think kids have it "better" or "worse" today than when you were a kid?
  • List ten things you are grateful for.
  • What are three things you want people to remember about you?
  • What is your all-time favorite joke?
  • What would you consider to be the most important lesson you've learned in life?
  • How has faith/God shaped you?
  • List your top ten favorite movies.
  • Why do you love to read?
  • If you could give me one piece of advice, what would it be?
  • If you were to travel anywhere, where would you go?
  • What's the best vacation you've ever taken?
  • How would you like to spend your retirement years?
  • What's your favorite thing about yourself?
  • What's your favorite thing about our family?
  • What's your favorite thing about me?
  • What did I miss?? Any other stories you think I ought to know?
Please leave a comment with any questions, or any pieces I may have missed.

Thursday, October 30, 2014

My 35 by 35. An Update.

I turned 32 last Friday. That feels like reason enough to give you an update on my 35 by 35 list! The bold is completed...and there is some photographic evidence of a few of these--I need to figure out a better documentation process.

My 35 by 35
1. Record the life stories of all four grandparents {Two Complete: 1, 2. Two in progress}
2. Travel to 15 never-before-visited states
         1. Massachusetts 
         2. Rhode Island
         3. Connecticut
         4. Maryland
         5. Pennsylvania
         6. New Mexico
         7. Oklahoma
        
4. Raise $1000 for charity: water
5. Write 365 notes in 365 days
6. Learn to use a sewing machine
7. Do the splits both ways
8. Read 40 books
         1. Harry Potter 1
         2. Night Film
         3. Special Topics in Calamity Physics
         4. Intensity
         5. Harry Potter 2
         6. Flappers and Philosophers
         7. The Ocean at the End of the Lane
         8. This Is Where I Leave You
         9. Harry Potter 3
        10. Gone Girl

9. See 25 bands play live
         1. Bethel
         2. Moxie
         3. Ivan & Aloysha
         4. The Lone Bellow
         5. Cast of Once pre-show
         6. Dominik Michalzik
         7. Tyson Motsenbacher
         8. Lowly Spects
         9. St Vincent
         10. Noveller
         11. NKOTB
         12. Matt Redman
         13. Izzi Ray

10. Participate in the freeing of a child slave
11. Learn to drive a stick-shift
12. Create "memorable childhood moments" for children who had to grow up too fast
13. Travel to 2 never-before-visited countries
14. Attend a balloon festival
15. Make a lobster dinner for two
16. Complete 60 DIY projects
         1. bjork swan dress
         2. pumpkin garland
         3. donut pumpkins
         4. Mike Wazowski
         5. black and white canvas
         6. animal masks
         7. claw gloves
         8. pink ribbon canvas
         9. stocking garland
         10. sequins ornaments
         11. cloth napkins
         12. embroidered map routes
         13. pinecone garland for Kretzus
         14. mood board
         15. brooch magnets
         16. paris calendar
         17. herb pots
         18. painted bobby pins
         19. vodka gummy bears
         20. mounted animal heads
         21. dentistry mobile
         22. surfer canvas
         23. legwarmers
         24. chalkboard wine glasses
         25. Theo penguin
         26. Cheryl's GOLDEN birthday party decorations
         27. Repaint chalkboard wall
         28. Rehang kitchen cabinets
         29. Repair Deacon's robot
         30. Mend Alex's jeans
         31. Gwenivere's bunting banner
         32. Striped living room
         33. rainbow pancakes
         34. Mason's cake topper
         35. Bathroom paint stripes
         36. Tailor the Urban dress
         37. Madison's tank top
         38. Jolene's shorts
         39. Fix the office toilet
         40. Sandy's dress
         41. James Dean Quote
         42. Es' Halloween Costume
         43. Chewbacca
         44. Good Neighbor Cookie Jars
         45. Dre's Christmas paper chain
         46. Ocean Hills Homecoming

17. Be in a photo shoot
18. Complete an entire Annual Bible Read with Mariners
19. Write a song
20. Read the Complete Works of Shakespeare
21. Address a set of envelopes in beautiful calligraphy
23. Hike to the Hollywood sign
24. Watch every Hitchcock movie in which he made a cameo (36)
         1. North by Northwest
         2. Rear Window
         3. The Birds
         4. Vertigo
         5. Psycho
         6. The Lady Vanishes
         7. The 39 Steps
         8. To Catch A Thief 
         9. Suspicion
         10. The Lodger

27. Host an outdoor movie night
28. Spend 52 days unplugged (one day a week for a year)
30. Learn to use my camera // take and frame two photos
31. Take OT and NT classes
32. Watch 3 new TV series
         a. Melissa & Joey
         b. That 70s Show
         c. The West Wing
33. Record a Christmas album
34. Buy a domain for my blog

Friday, September 12, 2014

Show Me That Smile Again

because the title of this post makes this apropos

This year has been a strange one. A really great one. A stretching one...in a this-is-so-great-but-also-please-give-me-a-minute-to-catch-my-breath-please kind of way.

And it's only September.

There is no possible way I would have imagined, in September 2013, that this would be what my September 2014 would look like...or would have dreamed of the changes and lessons and little victories that have gotten me here.

Again, in a "oh man, I have learned so much about myself and also, shhhh, I want to stop growing and just take a nap for a minute" way.

On my way to work on Tuesday, I was praying about this Fall. And I stopped myself when I said, "I am not even really sure what to pray because I can't imagine what else You might do in this next season."

Because, in all honesty, I can. not. imagine what else God has in store.

My life is pretty different now--I am pretty different now--than it/I was even 6 months ago...and I am so nervously excited about how much more growing and stretching God has in store for me over the rest of this year.

I hope there is just as much laughter.
But could do with fewer tears.
And maybe a little more travel.

September is my month and Fall is my season.
Whatever that means, I mean it.